Journal+6

I think the topic of my research will be "Death of a Parent in Adolescent Years"

**Interview**: Death of my Mom's Dad **Questions**:

1.) How can you deal with death? My Mom dealt with it on her own, in her own way. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but experts say that there are four steps of grieving a person typically goes through when facing the death of a parent or other loved one. First, there is shock and numbness, then disbelief and denial, then anger, then finally, acceptance.

2.) How long does it usually take to accept the death of a parent? My mom just sort of got over it when she realized he was gone. It may take months or years or even a lifetime for a person to heal; it all depends on the individual.

3.) What type of specialist can you see to accept the death of a parent? My mom dealt with it on her own. Parent support groups.

4.) What are unhealthy signs after the death of a parent? Using alcohol, drugs, eating disorders, or engaging in self-mutilation.

5.) What are healthy acceptance signs? Writing in a journal can help with feelings.

<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 19pt;">6.) How does death impact the adolescent? <span style="color: #66ccff; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">My mom just couldn’t believe it was him. <span style="color: lime; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">Death can affect children later in adulthood if the death is not given proper attention and the children aren’t provided grief support and the opportunity to express their pain.

<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">7.) What are the emotions of a death of a parent? <span style="color: #66ccff; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">My mom felt sad, shocked, terrible and disbelief. She also felt scared and lonely, because they were very close. <span style="color: lime; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">The death of a parent can leave a teen struggling to cope with life. It frequently results in depression. <span style="color: lime; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 19pt;">Ultimately felt liberated, driven to self-reliance

<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 19pt;">8.) What types of support can you get from family and friends? <span style="color: #66ccff; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 19pt;">My mom and her mom took care of each other. <span style="color: #8000ff; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 19pt;">Teens who have lost a parent join a support group so they won't feel so alone, and so they will have a place to voice their feelings.

<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 19pt;">9.) What should you do to deal with it? <span style="color: #66ccff; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 19pt;">My mom just dealt with it. <span style="color: #8000ff; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 19pt;">Education and support can make your grief bearable, reading books on the topic can also help kids to know what they will soon be feeling.

<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">10.) How do most adolescents deal with the death of a parent? <span style="color: lime; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">Writing in a journal, support of friends.

<span style="color: #66ccff; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">Interview: <span style="color: #66ccff; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">Doyle, Tracy. Personal Interview. 19 March 2011.

<span style="color: lime; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">Gale Databases: <span style="color: lime; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">Walker, Paulette, and Michelle Shaffer. "Reducing depression among adolescents dealing with grief and loss: a program evaluation report." //Health and Social Work// 32.1 (2007): 67+. //Student Resource Center - Gold//. Web. 31 Mar. 2011.

<span style="color: #ff6fcf; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 25px;">Oder, Norman. "Losing Your Parents, Finding Your Self: The Defining Turning Point of Adult Life." //Library Journal// 125.3 (2000): 180. //Student Resource Center - Gold//. Web. 13 Apr. 2011.

<span style="color: #8000ff; font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%;">Bell, Alison. "'My family was killed in a car crash.'(Real Life True Story)." //Teen Magazine// July 1996: 40+. //Student Resource Center - Gold//. Web. 13 Apr. 2011.

<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 25px;">Victoria Secunda: "But it's not a grief issue, it's an identity issue, an existential issue." (interesting quote)

<span style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: 110%; line-height: 25px;">Boelcke, Allison. "What is Bronchial Cancer?" 2003-2011. //WiseGeek.// Web. (Bronchial Cancer in draft)

Alspaugh, Lara. "Death of a Parent". //Livestrong.com.// 26 April 2011. Web. (In paper)